Pivot

 We've leveled up. 

I can't pinpoint the moment, or the reason, but sometime in the last few months, there's been a shift. I'm so grateful. And I'm so proud of us. Our little family of three. We have all worked so hard, over the last two years especially. And I think we are seeing the payoff from that. 

It's impossible to say in one quick sentence, what has made the difference. I don't think it's any one thing really. But I'm so grateful for the shift.

The relationship between them and their dad has become a safe space. I'm so proud of them both. For building compromise and repair. For communicating and willingness to lean in. That's the hard work. It's so simple, but it's so hard to do consistently. And it's so important. 

What did he do differently to help build that safety? Again, it's hard to put a finger on any one thing. To me, I've been so impressed by his willingness to pivot. In a heated, emotional moment, on the verge of meltdown and frustration for all of us. To stop, take a deep breath, and come at it differently. To soften and take a step back. To be willing to apologize and repair, to build trust. 

It's made a huge difference.